Time will pass anyway
If I could go back in time, I would tell myself to not be discouraged by the time it takes to reach certain goals. There might be a big goal that you are trying to reach that takes months or even years. The worst thing you can do is quit because it takes too long! Once the time passes you will realize that your goal could’ve been achieved, if only you had been consistent. I always find myself thinking, where would I be now if I would’ve never stopped dancing, if I wouldn’t have switched my major, and if I wouldn’t have ever cheated on that diet I tried to start 6 months ago.
Depend on yourself for happiness
I would tell myself that my happiness was of foremost importance, and that I should not hesitate in cutting off anything or anyone that was not making me happy. I spent a few years of my life trying to make someone else happy for fear of losing them, and so I subjugated myself to a life of sadness for a while. Most importantly, I sacrificed my own growth as a person. I would tell myself that my happiness should never depend on others, no matter how much trust you have in them. At the end of the day, you never TRULY know someone, but you do know yourself.
Learn from your elders
I would tell myself that as much as I believed I had been through it all, I should have listened more to my parents and the life lessons they had to offer. At the end of the day, they do have more life experience than you, and by listening, you could learn a lot. At 19, I realize now that they were absolutely right about most things, and that the most valuable pieces of advice I have ever received have been from them.
I would tell myself that it is better to be lonely, than to be in a bad relationship. I’m a strong believer that if your significant other is making you cry more than you would single, it’s time to toughen up and let go. This quote exemplifies my point perfectly.
“Just like a shoe, if someone is meant for you, they will fit just perfectly; no forcing, no struggling, and no pain.”
Don’t get me wrong, I know that relationships take work, when the “work” requires you suffering over someone constantly, it is not worth it. I’ve realized that some people are simply lessons. At this point in my life, I know exactly what I want and I won’t settle for anything less.
Bad things lead to good
It may seem cheesy, but if I could go back in time and tell my younger self something, it would be that the worst things to ever happen to me would lead me to this point in my life, where I could say I am truly happy. Sometimes we don’t understand why bad things are happening to us. We will find comfort in the saying “everything happens for a reason”, but we start to lose faith because we cannot think of what we ever did to deserve it. Turns out, life works in mysterious ways. I can honestly say that if I could go back in time, and change something, I wouldn’t.